To get what most people want, you must be willing to do what most people won’t

We all have those ah-ha moments in life, moments of enlightenment where something or someone wakes us up to a whole new perspective.

The statement in the title is something that a mentor of mine said to me when I was 18 years old, it’s a profound statement and easily misinterpreted for someone who is young and naive.

15 years later and although I still believe it’s true, my perspective has dramatically changed.

What do most people want?

At the age of 18, I was working for a direct sales and marketing company and like many moldable 18-year-olds, I was lead to believe that having a big house, fast cars, and expensive accessories were the keys to success and happiness. A majority of what I was busting my guts, working 100 hours a week for was completely materialistic.

By the time I was 24, I’d become a master of sales, opened a fast-paced direct sales and marketing company, made my first $10k in a day, had my dream car, and made almost $250k that year alone, but I was also extremely confused, because that very same year, whilst in many people’s eyes, I’d “made it”, I was having a massive identity crisis. I was spending money almost as fast as I made it just to cover up the fact that even with all the things that I thought I wanted, the things that so many people think that they want, deep down I wasn’t fulfilled, I wasn’t happy.

I have a very fond memory in primary school when my teacher was asking all the students in class what they wanted to be when they grow up.

Kids who were asked before me spouted off stereotypical answers like “a fireman, police officer, astronaut” and so forth, I found myself profoundly answering

“I want to be happy”

As I write this, I admit it does sounds like the answer of a sad or depressed young kid, the truth is, I was a very happy kid, and I thought the answer was quite clever, other kids seemed to agree, laughing as they started to copy my answer,

“Yes! I want to be happy too!”

“Me too”

“That’s very nice Tom, but I’m referring to the type of job you would like to have” said My teacher.

It’s funny how we are trained from a very young age to decide what it is that we will dedicate the rest of our lives to, when we have almost no experience of life and what’s out there that might actually make us feel happy and fulfilled.

We create verbal prisons for ourselves based on experiences that we have not even had and then in many cases force ourselves or our children to follow through, or else they are “giving up on their dream”, a dream that was probably misleadingly created whilst watching a Hollywood film star glorify the roll.

Considering my primary school story, it makes me smile that 24 years later, I can confidently say that I have lived a very happy life, sure I’ve had my moments, close friends have died, I caught my now ex-fiance cheating on me whilst we were on holidays together in Thailand with a complete stranger, my mother was diagnosed with cancer, and I’ve personally escaped death more than once by the skin of my teeth, yet if you ask anyone who knows me well, these events as painful or scary as they may have been, have also put things into perspective and catapulted me to higher levels of gratitude, personal growth and strangely enough, happiness.

So What is The Secret to Happiness?

Well I’m not saying I have all the answers, and I still have my off days but as I said above and if you ask anyone who knows me well, they would tell you that I have an uncanny ability to see the positive in every situation, and even when I’m having a rough day, I’ve been through enough to know that, tough times never last, tough people do and simply knowing that gives me a little bit of light even when all seems dark.

That said, I have investigated as to why I have this ability and the good news is, I honestly believe it is something that can be learned and applied, so here are a few tips as to how I’m such a happy fella.

Fulfilling your heart’s desire

When a very close friend died in her sleep in a tragic house fire, it made me realize that we could wake up in heaven tomorrow, so if you are not fulfilling your heart’s desire and living a life that you love then something needs to change, no money in the world is worth ignoring that. Her passing gave me the courage to resign from a role that most people think would fix all of there problems because of how much I was getting paid.

My heart’s desire was to travel the world, try new things, experience new cultures, learn a new language and fall in love, not be chained to a desk 50 plus hours a week in a city that bored the hell out of me just to fill my bank account, only to spend half of it on the weekends to try put some colour back into my life.

That said, I’m acutely aware that although money doesn’t buy you happiness, being broke doesn’t buy you anything and having a certain level of financial stability is important for your general wellbeing, but if you follow me, on any of my social media platforms, or through my website one of my goals in life, which also brings me a ton of fulfillment is showing people that you don’t have to choose one over the other and that it is possible to make a great income doing something you love.

Forgiveness

When I caught my partner of more than 4 years, and fiance to be, in bed with a complete stranger on a holiday that I was paying for, sure I drunk myself stupid for a few days but eventually came to the realization that I had, in fact, dodged a bullet and was better off without her, this taught me so much about myself and the power of forgiveness, an absolute key to true happiness! It took a number of years and personal growth but has now lead to me finding a partner that I have a much deeper level of communication and love with.

How many people hold onto the pain of infidelity, betrayal, and let it prevent them from moving on to something bigger and better?

How many times have you heard the following

  • “All men want is sex”
  • “All women want is your money”
  • “All men/women are the same”

Yes, like Donald Trump and Mahatma Gandhi are soooooo similar right?

Gratitude

When my mother was diagnosed with cancer, although our family was already very close, the news shook us all to the core but reconnected us in a way that made us even more grateful for every passing moment that we get to spend with each other. We now even have a family messenger group because of it where we share and communicate on a daily basis.

This incident also sparked the flame that was responsible for another life course correction and a massive reminder to pursue a fulfilling lifestyle career over a good job and income, which lead me to the geographical freedom lifestyle, philosophy and business model that I now live and love, as it has given me the freedom to spend more time with who I want, where I want, and when I want.

PS I’m thrilled to say that mum is a cancer survivor and is inspiring me more than ever with her passion for life, massive heart, and wonderful words of wisdom.

Daily Physical and Mental Stimulation

Another thing that I would attribute to my generally happy disposition is something that Tony Robbins refers to as feeding your body and mind daily.

He is the king of one-liners so I’m going to steal one more of the quotes I’ve heard him say, “readers are leaders“, even if it’s just half an hour a day, I’m not talking about an article in Dolly or Thrasher Magazine, read something that will challenge your beliefs, or teach you something new. The mind is a muscle and your mental growth and strength depend on how often you exercise it.

PS for those of you who don’t skate, “Thrasher” isn’t a type of porn magazine, but porn mags don’t count either, sorry guys 😉

If you think the body and mind aren’t tightly connected than you are kidding yourself, and even though I can name the time and location of the 3 gym visits I’ve had in my life, I do however like to do something active on a daily basis.

Be it running, swimming, riding, any sports activity, or even just smashing out 50 pushups, making sure you do something that challenges your body EVERY DAY can have massive effects on your energy and happiness.

It’s very well documented that the endorphins released during exercise improve mental health by reducing anxiety, depression, and negative mood, and by improving self-esteem and cognitive function, exercise has also been found to alleviate symptoms such as low self-esteem and social withdrawal.
which brings me to my final point for this particular article.

Connection

Here is a question for you, Do you know what the opposite of addiction is?

Studies have shown that it’s not sobriety but in fact connection. And don’t be fooled, I’m not just talking about drug addiction. So then, with more ways to connect than ever before, why is it that we are so disconnected?

A massive skill that we must learn on social media is to connect, not compare.

Constantly comparing yourself to celebrities and all the “happy” faces on social media, has fuelled a fear of not being enough, leading to mass consumption and the idea that the more we have the happier we’ll be, wasting time and energy on things that do not serve us.

On that note, it’s getting a little late so I’m going to use that as a great bridge to say, if you got value out of what I have written, and want to learn how to live a more fulfilling, forgiving, grateful, stimulated and connected life then hit me up! let’s connect!

Please, reach out, follow me on Facebook, Instagram, and my personal website for more personal growth and tips around building a lifestyle around the things that you love and the people you love.

Peace out hippies!!

Why more people are trading the 9-5 grind to earn an income online than ever before.

It’s simple really, who wouldn’t want to stay “goodbye” to the 9-5 grind, the long and painful commute to and from work to a job that’s not fulfilling and replace that with hours of your choice whilst working from where ever the hell you like on something that you’re passionate about?

Earning an income from your laptop is certainly an attractive idea, and advances in technology have made it much easier for the average person to start their own online business, seriously, just google “best ways to make money online” and you’ll find a plethora of ideas, here are just a few.

  • Affiliate marketing.
  • Content creator.
  • Social media manager.
  • trading bonds or stock.
  • Amazon FBA.
  • Blogger, YouTuber, Vlogger.
  • Freelancer in the “Gig” economy through sites like Fiverr, UpWork or other similar sites where Artists, designers, copywriters, musicians and just about anyone can offer their skills for short contract work from their laptop.

These days you don’t even have to be that great with computers! I know of a 12-year-old who makes more money than most doctors because he started a youtube channel cutting things in half for crying out loud! yes, you’ve probably seen some of his videos. That said there are a few things that you should know before you quit your day job and dive into the world of making money online.

Lol, I’m not actually in my bed, I’m in a hotel lobby in a cute village called Beddgelert in Wales, this is me right now.

Now before you go on I want to be 100% transparent, the links in this post are affiliate links. This means that if you buy anything from those links, I’ll earn a small commission at no extra cost to you. I only link to stuff I’ve actually used and never endorse crap. I’m more than happy to help you learn how to do this yourself and of course, your support helps me keep the site going and to continue writing useful content from the comfort of my bed 😉

1. It’s not easy, especially in the beginning.

Beware of anyone telling you otherwise. It took me 6 months of invested time and money to learn how to earn my first dollar online, so if you’re looking for a get rich quick scheme, chances are you are going to find a “get ripped off quick” scheme.

For me, it was the idea of geographical freedom that kept me going!

If you’re not willing to put that effort in, I honestly suggest you stick to your 9-5, however like anything that you invest time and effort into, it does get easier with time, you just need to make sure your reason is strong enough to get momentum going, for some people that might be to get out of the rat race or simply being their own boss and living life on their own terms!

Either way, once you’ve mastered the skills, the content you put out there is working for you 24/7 all over the world, for example, this blog, once uploaded it’s there forever, and as long as people see value in what you post about and continue to purchase products through the links you share, you can literally earn money whilst you sleep, and from anywhere in the world!

2. Beware of scams!.

Some are pretty obvious but you would be surprised how convincing some of these scams can be, so how do you know which is a legitimate opportunity and which is a scam?

  1. Don’t fall for fear of loss trick- A common technique used to scare you into action is what’s called “fear of loss”, basically the idea is to give you the impression that if you don’t act there and then, you’ll “miss out on this amazing opportunity”. If an opportunity really is that good, they should be able to inspire you to act, not give you the impression that it’s now or never. If they don’t give you enough time to do a quick google search to find out what others have said about the company/product or opportunity then the chances are it isn’t worth doing anyway or, it’s simply a scam.
  2. Do your due diligence. –One skill that everyone needs to get good at in this day and age is fact-checking, it isn’t hard, we have all the information we need literally at our fingertips. Before you buy into anything, simply do a bit of googling.
  3. Use your common sense – It is worth noting that people do put bad reviews on good products, so read between the lines and, you will find enough information to use your own judgment and at least make a more rounded, less emotional, educated decision. Here are a few reasons why a bad review might be on a good product-
  • A competitor trying to unfairly tarnish the product, this will often be followed up with them adding a link to “a real opportunity”.
  • Someone hoping it was going to make them rich with little effort.
  • They aren’t the sharpest tool in the shed. You can often tell by the way they speak.

“If something seems too good to be true then chances are it is

3. Great opportunities do exist.

To some people the idea of being able to make money whilst you sleep or from your laptop from the comfort of… where ever the hell you like, may seem too good to be true, but I assure you it’s not. like I mentioned earlier, if you click on links in blogs or content that I create, not always but often I may have an affiliate agreement with those sites, meaning if you buy something from them, they will pay me a small commission for anything that you buy at no extra cost to you, yes, even if I’m asleep.

For example, ever shopped on Amazon or eBay? I’m guessing yes, now;

a) You can go directly to Amazon, purchase something and let’s say it costs you $50, Amazon will charge the product provider a cut for selling the item on their platform and for fulfilling the order or;

b) You might click on a link through a youtube channel or a blog like this one doing a review on that product and buy the same thing, still only pay $50, Amazon will still charge the same fee to the product provider, however the person who did the review or blog (like me) that directed you to the Amazon or eBay page will automatically receive a small commission out of the fee Amazons charged the supplier.

Pretty cool hey? In essence, it’s just one form of online marketing and sales.

On that note, if you like what I’ve just taught you, and have been thinking about buying something on Amazon or eBay, maybe some electronics or something for your kitchen? if you go through one of my links here, it’s the best way you can thank me 😉 cheeky I know, but hey, it comes out of Amazon’s pocket not yours, and you’re helping me to continue creating useful content and live the dream! just being honest 🙂

Watch out for the “Cookies” monster

One last thing, you may notice that once you start researching this topic, all of a sudden you will start seeing ads for similar or related opportunities being advertised all over your social media or computer screen, this is due to the “cookies” which are messages that web servers pass to your web browser when you search or visit Internet sites meaning companies AND SCAMMERS will know when you are looking for “ways to make money online“, so remember what I’ve told you, be vigilant have fun and come join the digital economy movement.

With Peace, Love, and Purpose

Tom Wright

Of course, if you wish to get in touch, I’m a real person and am always open to chat, you can DM me on my personal page here

10 fulfilling Lifestyle jobs that allow you to travel the world.

It’s astonishing how many people will put up with a job they don’t like, to only just cover expenses in a lifestyle they’re not thrilled about either.

Too often we ignore our inner child and sacrifice our happiness for a “healthy” paycheque. Considering it’s been proven that happier people live longer and that we spend on average 1/3 of our life at work, most of which whilst we are fit and healthy, it just makes so much more sense to put job satisfaction before income.

If it came down to it I’d rather just get by, besides the ones I love, doing things I love, in places I’d rather be or preferably all three together, that’s said, with a bit of hard work, the right planning and advice, you don’t have to give up the healthy paycheque either.

Over the years I’ve learned to live quite comfortably and even make great money as you travel, all you need is a bit of courage, effort and a pocket full of knowledge, yes your smartphone will do 😉

There are a bunch of amazing lifestyle jobs that allow you to travel and enjoy the world before you’re too old, below you have 10, I personally have done more than half of these “jobs” and loved all of them, the others I have also investigated or have close friends or family that chose these lifestyles, love life and travel a lot, I will save my personal favorite until #10. Please feel free to get in touch or leave comments if you know any other great options that may be useful for other readers. Enjoy!

1 – Cruise Ships

Working on cruise ships has a reputation for being one of the more fun travel job lifestyles. Apart from getting paid to work in a holiday environment whilst you cruise around the world, you’ll often get time at each port to explore.
  • Cruise ships have pretty much every type of service onboard meaning they hire everything from the crew, labor work to hairdressers, entertainment, hospitality and much more.
  • A simple search for “cruise ship jobs” and you’ll be able to find a company that works from your home country and everything you need to get started.

2 – Yacht Crew

I prefer something a little more personal like the beautiful french schooner yacht that I just spent five weeks on in the Mediterranean. Sure you get the odd a’hole but from my experience, you have to be a little crazy, cool and generally good with money to own a boat, the kind of people I like to hang out with and learn from.
  • There are sites you can create a profile, where boat owners who need crew are looking for people who they might get along with and want to share their pride and joy (boat) with.
  • Once sailing around you often meet other interesting people with boats that you can connect with so, It does get easier once you get in the scene.
  • You may already know someone who knows someone with a boat but otherwise put some love into your profiles online. Below you have a few places you can start.
  • https://www.findacrew.net
  • https://www.crewseekers.net/
  • Another effective tactic is just going down to your local marina and asking around, show your character and show your keen, meeting in person always has more impact.

3 – Airline Industry

There are various airline jobs from the pilot, air hosts to handling luggage and more. Apart from some providing a decent income, it does come with obvious travel perks like cheap or free flights, not just for yourself but often your loved ones. I have flown various times for 10% of the actual flight cost simply because I have a close connection with someone who works for an airline.
  • Becoming a Pilot obviously requires a decent amount of discipline and investment of your time and money but the pay and perks reflect the investment.
  • There are a number of pros and cons with becoming an air host, here is an article that you might find interesting if you want to consider this as the job you’d like to go for.
  • Airline jobs that come with the travel perks aren’t only limited to the jobs just mentioned but these two positions certainly provide more travel as you work.

4 – Volunteer

When working overseas you will often require a working visa, however, in most countries volunteering for board and food is not only satisfying but a legal loophole, for example, in general, it is allowed to volunteer in the US when you are there on a B1 or B2 visa, or on visa waiver program, and for most other visas that do not permit paid employment. However there are some restrictions, and it is best to check them out. Volunteering at hostels, tour companies, foundations or farms for a few months at a time, can not only be fun but fulfilling and often means you really get to know a place, people and culture better.

5 – English Exchange

If your native tongue is English then you are in luck, English is widely used all over the world and non English speakers will happily trade everything from board and food to full-time pay, believe it or not but wealthy people will let you live with them all expenses paid in exchange that you speak to their children in English a few hours a day, leaving the rest of the day for exploring the area.
  • A certification to teach English like TEFL (Teach English to Foreign Language) will help open opportunities but isn’t always necessary.
  • https://www.diverbo.com/ is a good example of a site that will connect you with opportunities but just try googling “Native English Exchange” for the area you are interested in visiting.
  • https://culturegogo.com/ is a great site that allows you to exchange English for food and board.

6 – Tourist Guide

I did this professionally for about 3 years in Colombia (that’s me in the bottom left-hand corner) and although I wasn’t earning amazing money, the time I spent as a guide was some of best years of my life so feel free to get in touch with me for more info. I have some great contacts in Colombia within the adventure tourism industry, particularly around scuba diving, white water rafting, rock climbing, and mountain bike guiding but also if you want to volunteer in any hostels, a lot of hostels will even have their own products that they need English speaking guides for.
  • Having certifications that back up your experience will always get you more jobs but I got my first guiding job just simply by being confident with people, bikes and having my first aid certificate and then grew from there.
  • You can get pretty serious with guiding and make serious money along with it, but it really isn’t about the money for most guides, I have some friends that do it full time, but I also have friends that volunteer in adventure tour companies all over the world in exchange for board, food, a great time doing activities they love plus the occasional tips.

7 – Snowfields/Ski resort work

If you’re a keen snowboarder or skier, would like to be or love a good party culture, then the snow resort lifestyle is hilariously fun. I have a few close friends who now follow the snow seasons around the world full time and they absolutely love bouncing between the northern and southern hemisphere.
  • You don’t need to be a ski instructor to enjoy the slopes, one of my mates works as a Chef, follows the seasons and just snowboards in his time off, he gets paid well enough to keep bouncing from one side of the planet to another and gets staff discounts off everything from accommodation, food and lift passes.
  • You will almost definitely need a working visa to work in snowfields around the world, so it’s worth noting that in most places that become hard once you turn 30.
  • Here is a good article if you’re interested in looking into snow resort work https://www.snowseasoncentral.com/10-steps-to-finding-a-ski-resort-job

8 – Dive Instructor

The underwater world is a stunning and fascinating place and you can make good money as a professional diver, especially if you specialize in certain areas, it does require a lot of investing both time and money first, but aside from some of the theory, it’s an extremely fun qualification to obtain, and if it means you can travel to beautiful places all over the world guiding or teaching people how to dive…. well you can understand why it’s a popular lifestyle career. (Me on the left)
  • It depends on where you are and how long you intend to stay but you don’t always need visas to get work diving but you will need to be certified and have some experienced at least.
  • Feel free to get in touch as I have a few connections around the world with diving schools and shops
  • here’s one site that dive shops will post job positions on https://divezone.net/jobs
  • and a good article about what it takes and what it’s like traveling the world as a dive instructor https://www.aroundtheworldin80jobs.com/scuba-instructor-in-utila/

9 – Musician or Performer

Like my brother, Simon Wright, (above) you may have a gift for entertainment, if this is the case then the opportunities to travel are only as small as your imagination, apart from the obvious option to busk in the streets which you can pretty much fall back on in most parts of the world, with a bit of know-how, like my brother you can set up paid gigs around the world and only busk in between if you really want to or have to for extra cash.
  • You don’t have to be an amazing musician/artist to get started, whilst I was in Florida USA, short on cash I knew a few songs well enough on guitar to play them on repeat as people walked past on the boulevard, I made about $40 US in 2 hours, which doesn’t sound like much but you can definitely get by on $40 US a day.
  • Busking is a great way to improve your music as you travel and once you’re a more weathered entertainer, you can also start to book paid gigs.
  • Cruise ships often pay well for in house entertainers, the work is regular and comes with perks of food, accommodation and of course travel. This isn’t limited to just music, maybe you’re a dancer or magician.
  • Here’s a great article about how my brother has been traveling the world for 1500 days straight on his #looptheworld tour, all paid for by his music and how he gets gigs along the way. HOW TO GET GIGS ON THE ROAD (By Simon Wright)

10 – Online Income

I have done a lot of the lifestyles/”Jobs” on the list above, but everything has eventually led me to the desire to want to earn directly from my computer, as this is what I consider true geographical freedom.

The idea of being able to earn a great income from anywhere in the world or be with my loved ones when I want or when they need me was more than enough motivation to overcome my terrible computer skills and figure out how I could make an income with just a laptop and wifi signal.

How? Turns out in today’s ever-growing digital world there are plenty of ways, and the good news is that with a bit of discipline, as long as you can self motivate and follow simple instructions, then you don’t need to be a tech nerd anymore to make good money online. I literally taught myself to touch-type just a few years ago, why now? because geographical freedom aside, the truth is that online business is the future and I know it.

If you’d like to learn how to build a profitable online business from scratch and turn your skills or passions into an online income stream so that you too can start building a future with geographical freedom then feel free to get in touch or click here for more info.

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Until next time, be good to yourself and each other.

Tom Wright